Salam Alaikum sisters🌸
How are you feeling today?

Yesterday I was talking about fears and decided to text you about it too. So today about FEARS😰

FEARS ARE NEVER ABOUT NOW MOMENT. It’s a projection about future. When we really facing scary situation we are not thinking that we afraid. We just having body reactions and within few seconds either escaping, either fighting.
If I ask ask each of you now - what is fear for you? How do you understand it? How do you feel it? Most likely, the answers would be: increasing tension, increased heart rate, the desire to hide, run, sweaty palms, etc. Fear is always a cocktail of feelings, insecurity and unknown. Anything can be behind insecurity: fear for your health, loved ones, finances, but the further we go into fear, the more we end up finding something completely different. 99% is fear of death, for example: spider phobia - I will die, fear of heights - I will fall/kill myself, fear of flying - the airplane will crash/I will die, terrible diagnosis - there will be no cure/I will die... But the interesting thing is that during counseling - in fact, even behind this fear, which seems to lead nowhere, there is a further story... From practice: fear of flying - the plane will crash - I will die - they will feel sorry for me - they will miss me - they will finally pay attention to me (the reason for the fear not that the plane will fall, but that there is no way to get attention and love from others), fear of the child's illness - he will get sick - he will die - how will I live without him, because he is my whole life (I am afraid not of the child's illness, which is successfully treated, but of the feeling of loneliness , because the woman has not fully realized herself, does not living in peace with her husband and the center of her life is only the child), fear of losing her job till a panic attack - she will have nothing to live on, she will be thrown out of the home, she will become homeless, she will have to beg for money - and it will be a shame...(a hidden feeling of being yourself and living your life according to your abilities without comparing yourself to rich and famous relatives).

Many of you are now thinking, what to do with your fear? There will not be one answer, because we are very different and everyone has their own emotional "ceiling" (which is why sometimes it is simply impossible to cope without professional help).

However, you can work on yourself with the help of a simple but very effective practice:
- find time for yourself, take a breath, calm down;
- think about it - what you are so afraid of?;
- if that fear had a form - what would it be? - this is the shape (let's say your spider phobia is similar to a big tarantula), mentally transfer it to your palm and examine it well;
- when you examine, evaluate (feel that you are in control of the situation, you are the owner of the palm on which fear is placed and you can drop that fear metaphor anywhere at any time).
Say your fear: "I see you!"
And pay attention to your body's reactions.
Say clearly and boldly several more times "I see you and I don't need to be afraid of you". After all, you are big now, and the fear in the palm of your hand is small. Feel it… how do you feel when you control your fear, you are more and above it… See with your inner vision how the primary vision of fear is changing. And it really changes... How does your state change? Breathing? Body?
NOW you can do whatever you want to do with the metaphor of fear (very individually for everyone)...
And after practice, give your mind at least 3-5 options as to how the situation that scares you could be different.

Stay brave to live and enjoy every moment❤️

About fears “ what other people will say” will text tomorrow InshaAllah.