Salam Alaikum sisters❤️Hope you all doing well. Welcome new sisters to the group🌸
We can read all the books about positive/respectful parenting and other parenting techniques books, watch thousands videos on YouTube, read Instagram messages but if we don't work with ourselves and consciously look at our traumas, beliefs, attitudes what we consciously or unconsciously follow it will always cause the reactions we experience through triggers. And we always will return to the same point.
That’s why, in this group we talking not only about how to raise children, but even more about Self-raising and Self-awareness, because everything starts from us and our (sub)conscious actions. Actions/ reactions are the messages what we pass on to our children, whether we want it or not.
So I would like to remind you few things and you MUST start doing it as a parent if you want to see yourself and children, and become more conscious parent. Because only conscious parents can proper deal with situation, see themselves and can better respond and connect with the children. ( Those who really start following what I’ll write below, will connect all information much more easier and will start seeing changes quicker).
So today about:
SLOW DOWN AND BE HERE AND NOW
I know how ridiculous it sounds😬 Everyone knows it, but almost no one doing it.
Most of the moms ( I was one of them) would ask: “how to slow down?! I’m already not having time for anything, even sometimes delaying to go to toilet, forgot what does it mean to have a nice and peaceful sleep, I can’t eat my food without rushing and in peace…”.
Seems like life with kids should be run 🏃🏼♀️ and rush. But actually IT’S OPPOSITE.
Our children each moment inviting us to SLOW DOWN AND BE HERE AND NOW: “ mom, look !, mom come! mom see !”
So those who are feeling rushed and rushing need to take a decision and create inner intention TO SLOW DOWN. Basically need to unlearn to rush. It takes time. But we are capable and having free will to choose.
I always saying, let all the world spin around you but you do everything in your own pace.
To be consciously aware, to see life, yourself and children— SLOW DOWN ! 🐢
Once I found online words who made me think, contemplate, turn to myself, rethink life and slow down. Also these words reminded me my mom’s colleagues son’s words when she was rushing him in the morning: “ Mom, WHEN it won’t be quick?”
So sharing someones thoughts:
Have you noticed how you run everywhere and never get on time? Where are you running like that? To where? When will you allow yourself to stop and breathe a life? When will the full list of plans end? And is this even possible? Will you ever really have enough? We are running, hurrying, running everywhere, not paying attention to what is really important HERE AND NOW. Because there is nothing else. Didn't you notice? Nothing else is just HERE and NOW. There is no other time, only this, only now. And so it will always be. And your child knows it. She knows. Look into her eyes and you will see everything you have been waiting for. Look into the eyes and you will see rivers of boundless love, the beauty of the present, the truth of emotions, the gift of playfulness, which is not about games, this playfulness energy is about Life. And you forgot it somewhere, pushed it away, as inappropriate, as a waste of time, as a disturbing someone. Just why? It never bothered YOU. But maybe it bothered your parents? There was so much work, so much needed to be done, there was no time to be and play. To play life, because they had to rush to work, wash, cook, plan, and everything is in a circle again. And where did you stay then? Can you get yourself out of that tight circle? Can you reclaim the part of you that you left behind as something that no longer fit your life…SEE yourself here and now, SEE that child inside you who KNOWS what life is, who knows how you want to live it. Who knows that even working, washing, and shopping can be done while laughing, loving yourself and life and your children and without rush. Do you know it inside, do you see it, do you feel it? YOU ARE 💗 here and now, just as you are. You are and that is enough. And your children know this and try to remind you every day, do you see them? Do you really see or be, or do you really slow down and be with them without plans or business on your mind? Do you feel that pulsation of life passing through them and reminding you of your own nature and being? We don’t need to drag our children into our lives of stress, expectations and demands. You need to slow down and come back to yourself, really meet the children in the present and feel the real flow of life in their eyes.❤️
TASK for everyone:
Almost all accidents happening because we are rushing. We can’t really SEE and FEEL our children when we rushing.
Each moment ask yourself am I in peace now? If you cooking: ask yourself: Am I cooking in peace? Not multitasking? Not rushing? Or I’m having thousands thoughts on my mind…Spilled coffee, dropped something, left somewhere something and forgot…where is keys? where is that fork? towel? baby’s socks? I need to do this and that, I need to run… Inner energy capacity soon finishing and we can’t respond more peacefully and react consciously to anyone. Notice it. It self awareness.
Having arguments with husband? Ask yourself am I peacefully talking ? Was I feeling peace inside?
Ask yourself and notice : how I’m feeling? How’s my body feeling? What thoughts I’m having NOW. Am I in peace?
Spilled tea? Immediately stop 🛑 Was I in peace? No? What’s happening, is this a priority? SLOW DOWN and first see yourself.
Be aware of what you are doing and notice when you rushing yourself, kids, others.
See how it affects everyone, notice how your kids or husband responding when you are in peace and when you are rushing. See other people if they rushing how much they are irritated and how they behave. Practice it! ❤️
P.S. Probably you noticed I’m writing something in capital letters. It’s just to stress the meaning or to point where you need to pay attention. So don’t take it as a shouting please😊