Today about PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.

Salam Alaikum sisters. Hope you are doing well🌸
Today about PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT BODY SIGNALS INDICATE WEAK PERSONAL BOUNDARIES OR THE ABSENCE OF THEM AT ALL?

The body never lies... Not only does it not lie, but it also tries in every way to show where "emotional/psychological repair" is needed.

The fact that a person's personal boundaries are constantly being violated is usually signaled by: the skin conditions (everything related to it), ureters, intestines, stomach, sometimes the upper respiratory tract.

The lack of personal boundaries comes with childhood trauma, authority figures, victimization, and a general lack of understanding of "What are my personal boundaries?"

So I would like to share two practices: one is very short and clear, and I’ll share today. The other requires a little introspection and time for yourself and I’ll share tomorrow.

So first one:
1. As soon as you feel that someone wants to "hang on you", "push or pressurise you", "suppress or oppress you " etc., you just immediately confidently say: "NO! I - I don't want to. NO! - it's not for me. NO! I don’t like it ." FULL STOP!!!
And you don't need to explain anything to anyone, or feel guilty if you hurt someone by saying NO.
It’s enough to be a slave of the expectations and wishes of others🤗

Your kids, your husband, your parents, your siblings, colleagues and friends can do things by themselves. Don’t allow everyone to use you.
Examples:
You see that your child can pour water himself- say go and do it. Husband asking to give you something what he can easy go and take it, tell him to do it by himself. Your mom saying come for dinner this weekend but you want to rest- say NO. Colleague asking to change shifts - you planned your time - say NO.

Obviously “all good girls” will allow to use themselves because they are good.

But rule No.1 do good for others/ serve them when you strongly feeling like doing it, when you want to please Allah SWT, when you can and happy about it what you are doing.
Listen to your body feelings and make people around independent.