Salam Alaikum sisters🌸 Hope you are doing well. Inshallah
Today about MANIPULATION
How often children's communication (especially tears) is considered as manipulation.😓
Even babies “manipulating”❓😱 They manipulating by crying and asking for closeness, connection, attention. Sincere tears of sadness and disappointment are also considered manipulation, because parents are unable to accept them and then, they do everything with angriness what the child wants. The child learns this way of asking, and both sides will stuck in that relation (and it's not pleasant for either of them).
Children DO NOT MANIPULATE.
Little child does not have such cognitive abilities. Sometimes they may try to satisfy their wants or needs in indirect ways. They’ve learned that this is the only way to get something or avoid punishment. This is not that deliberate manipulation, harming another person, to deliberately influence, deceive for own benefit. And it is very important to remove this filter if we really want to see our children…