Today About EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS

Today About EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS

We usually classifying: there are good emotions and bad emotions, good feelings and bad feelings. But actually emotions and feelings aren’t good or bad, they all are natural our body reactions. We wouldn’t know what are emotions and feelings if we won’t experience it throughout our body. And what we calling “bad” emotions/feelings they are just unpleasant body reactions.

So what to do with emotions and feelings?

First of all we need to know what are emotions and feelings, and what are the differences between them.
Here you can do your own google research or if you are with me in the classes we analysing more deeper.

So what we learned from childhood from our parents and other adults about emotions and feelings?

Usually what we learned from the childhood:

1. To suppress emotions and feelings and most of us doing it perfectly as adults. Is it healthy? - No! Is it helping?- No. About consequences of suppressed emotions next time InshaAllah. So most of us heard from early age “don’t cry it’s bad”, “ don’t cry because boys not crying”, “big girls not crying”, “don’t be sad”, “ stop laughing”….So what lesson or skills we learned? We learned: Don’t feel!
2. To express emotions in many ways: shout at others,smash something, harm someone or ourselves…Is it healthy? - No! Is it helping?- No.

Emotions regulation is NOT numbing and suppressing emotions. Suppressing emotions has a consequences and a very high price. So when you feeling anxious, angry, upset, sad, happy… feel it! Don’t stop to feel! Consciously acknowledge what are you feeling. Help yourself to feel it.
And remember! All calming methods is not to suppress emotions and feelings, but help you to feel.