Salam Alaikum sisters. Hope you are doing well today 🌸
Today about
WISHES AND DESIRES
Imagine telling another person:
"Oh, I would love to go to Spain!!"😍
And he/she will reply to you:
"Don't you want too much?? You've already traveled this year! We can't travel so often! Wake up! "
Or:
"I wish I had a cake with an ice cream now!"😋
And he/ she will answer to you:
"You've had enough. We don't have any cakes. That's it. Stop it!"
And if you felt “the door slam” so hard against your wishes , you would be overwhelmed with sadness...
"Stop crying here! Stop whining!", "If you cry like this we won't go anywhere!", "I won't be with you! Go and cry for that Spain in your room! I don't need your tears!"
Most adults no longer know how to wish, they no longer know how to dream, they simply don't even allow themselves to do so, they don't feel worthy, they don't feel safe...💔
How can we not pass it on to your children?
Hear their wishes!
🟡You don't need to fulfil them ! 🟡
Let kids dream in front of you and feel sadness and disappointment if they can't get/experience something right now - these are valid feelings and everything is fine with them! 💗
I share more about responsive listening in classes, which is one of the most important skills when we communicating with everyone (!), not just with our children.
And think, is it easy or difficult for you to dream or just wish?