Recently I came across a post:

Salam Alaikum sisters🌸 How are you feeling today?

Recently I came across a post:

“Whatever you are not Changing ,
You are Choosing.
Read that again.

You have the power to change the things that are not serving your best self.
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.

May you have the Courage to break the Patterns in your Life that are no longer Serving you..”
༺꧁❤️꧂༻

And I would add what no longer serving you kids as well.

And today about PATTERNS IN OUR LIFE AND CHANGES.

Our attitudes, learned programs, habits, beliefs, ego “ I know better than you” not allowing us to live OUR lifes.

We usually want changes from others.
Demanding from kids, spouses and sometimes seems so right that others need to change. But rare turning to ourselves.
Had argument with husband, was angry at kids, fighting with work colleagues, or feeling that your parents are guilty that you are having troubled life… first turn to yourself and ask:
What I’m feeling? Do I really know myself? Who am I? What is my purpose in life? How do I know how it should be? Where is my knowledge come from?
What is mine opinion and how much I influenced by others? How much I’m living my life or others life? What I would like to change about myself?

When we analysing ourselves in classes most of the ladies feeling lost, just because they discovering that they don’t know themselves who they really are, learned patterns aren’t theirs and not serving them anymore and it’s just repetitive habits what they been taught in childhood. They are not living
their own lives but seems they are living someones else.

Most of you probably wouldn’t join this group if you wouldn’t feel you need changes in your parenting style and yourselves.

So parenting patterns, fears, inner provisions, beliefs, knowledge we got from our parents and their culture. Even we feeling they are not helping us anymore and aren’t useful for our kids still we applying it subconsciously.

Like belief:
“ If my child won’t eat he will get sick and I need to go to hospital with him, it will be stressful so I need to bribe, manipulate, threaten him to eat”.
And if we analyse more deeper and I ask: Are you afraid? Did it happen in your child’s life ? In your life? How do you know it? And many more questions…We become to know that it’s a belief and fear without a reason.
Remember ! Fears are never about now. It’s a projection about the future and most of fears and beliefs what we projecting are our parents and grandparents fears.

So manipulation, control, praises, slapping children… using power for most of us so natural that we can’t easy stop it and behave different. It’s like a habit what is not easy to get rid of. Especially that we been raised through it.

I’ll give you a task today to think consciously:

Think 🤔 What parenting style/ methods/ knowledge/ beliefs you are using in your family, where did you learn it from? How your parents parented you and what do you know about grandparents parenting style, knowledge, beliefs, fears and inner provisions?
Did you notice what patterns, beliefs, knowledge repeating from generation to generation in your family and not serving you anymore ?

What would you like to change?

If you can, please share with us in this group, that we all become more conscious about it too.
It’s interesting what fears, beliefs, inner provisions and parenting styles vary in different countries.

Wishing everyone a nice and sunny day☀️
And inviting to spend afternoon with your kids by playing online with We for You team🤗❤️👾🎯🕹️🎮

About the games, screen time, addictions and many more themes and topics will post soon InshaAllah.

Jazakalah khair for becoming more conscious parent🤗