Salam Alaikum sisters. I hope you are doing well and having a nice Friday day.🌸
REAL SITUATION
“She is 5 years old. As a child is very good, polite with people, helps and everything seems to be fine, but likes to manipulate, want everything that is not possible and when we say it is not possible, then hysterically cries not listening to me and behaviour is bad. How to control her anger and make her listen.”
Many moms asking “ how to make the child listen and behave nicely”.
First I recommend to join classes to change this perspective, and to be able to SEE the other person in front of you and build relation, second these teachings are NOT suitable for those who want to control and suppress the child that he/she don’t communicate needs and emotions.
All information is for those who really want to see children and their abilities, understand natural development, to know how to communicate and hear each other, and establish relation with children for the whole life.
As long as you see children as manipulative, disobedient, stubborn, careless, spoiled, lazy relation won’t be possible, because you will see every situation through all these filters, without seeing another human being and what he/she is trying to communicate. Because behind each behaviour are emotions and feelings, unmet needs and natural child’s development. Children will ask you in many ways, many times per day: do you love me? do you hear me? do you see me? am I safe?
That’s why it’s a question that requires not short answer, but to change a whole perspective.
Remember!
Children very good raising up all our emotions and pointing to our inner wounds. So it’s an opportunity for us to turn to ourselves and look to our inside too.
P.S. For those who doesn’t want/ not having time to join classes I’ll post slowly but regularly some information here in the group.
You can invite other ladies who having and not having kids to join the group too.
Have a nice and peaceful Friday ❤️