Salam Alaikum sisters. Hope you a feeling better and better today InshaAllah. 🌸
One more wound from the childhood and for the children…
When the closest people punishing with “time out”, rejecting, and threatening “I’ll leave you, because you are bad” breaching children security feeling. Belonging to a family is their direct survivance, THE FEELING EQUALS DEATH. So the child feels dying each time when he is rejected and threatened to be left. That’s why as an adult so many women and men choosing any relation just to feel safe and not to feel loneliness. Even staying in a toxic relation is ok for them, they treating abusers with care and suffering, as belonging to someone for them means a direct “survivance”.
Even small things, example when the small child doesn’t want to go out from the playground, and mom or dad saying: “ Let’s go, or I’ll leave you” it’s a threat and it’s been written in child’s mind and body. Subconsciously it’s manifesting in adults life as insecurity feeling, especially often if it was repeated continuously.
How to make child willingly go with you from the playground, birthday parties and more will post at the end when will finish to post all of these pictures.
Have a Blessed day❤️