Salam Alaikum sisters. 🌸How are you feeling today?
One more picture today. I wanted to remind to everyone, that parents are not deciding to shout or slap kids suddenly. These reactions are not about now or what our children did now. We reacting subconsciously from our past. Even if you never was physically abused by your parents or closest people, still your inner child might react from what happened in your past, in your environment ( maybe you saw fights between adults and you was scared? No one explained or talked to you. Maybe something happened and adults scolded you…). Anything what happened around you in your childhood, you took as it’s because of you, as it’s your fault. All childhood experiences, memories and feelings are encoded in your subconscious and your body. That’s why now your kids might raise these feelings inside you and your reactions towards them will be very severe. Obviously children who experienced direct physical or psychological abuse as an adults will react more severe. Because it’s a threat for their inner child.
Most of the mothers saying, I don’t want to shout or slap my kids, I’m regreting but I’m still doing it. How to stop it?
I’ll text about it tomorrow InshaAllah.
I’m encouraging everyone to rethink your reactions. How I’m feeling when my child is not listening to me? Do I really see the child? Or I see only what has been done by him/ her? How my parents reacted when I did something? How old I’ve been? Remember yourself little and ask yourself: What I needed that time?