Salam Alaikum sisters. 🌸Hope you are doing well and having peaceful Friday.
Many parents asking me why kids not listening what parents are saying, not respecting, not doing…
Many parents saying: “but we are different, we listened to our parents”.
Remember yourself… little…teenager…
Most of us were listening just because we afraid, we been raised through punishments, manipulations and praises. Most of us didn’t want to listen too, but we were hiding our emotions and obeying or ran away, or close inside, or became rebellious and most of us wanted to go away from parents house and create our personal life asap.
Ask yourself now. How close I’m with my mom or dad now, how much I’m trusting them and can tell everything I want and willingly listening to their advices now. How much they understand me now or would understand me?
Ofc we grew up and became personalities, but with traumatic experiences, lack of life skills, fears, lack of patience and without knowing what to do when angry, upset or feeling anxious…
Positive parenting is CONSCIOUS PARENTING and it doesn’t mean that parents don’t draw boundaries or not applying rules and consequences.
But only through RESPECTFUL COMMUNICATION we can achieve that children listen, that children respect their parents and grow up self-confident and able to make decisions in life.
So what is respectful communication?
From now I’ll be texting real examples and show you ways how to communicate with the children.
For most of you it will be unusual, as we adapted to behave like our parents behaved with us.
It takes time to unlearn what we learned and to see children from different prospective.
It’s a process and it will be like learning a new language.