In the past, children emotions caused me strong emotions, irritation, anger, the desire to control, judge,regret, panic, not knowing how to react and what to do…

Until I learned and turned to my own emotions and analysed where they coming from. Now kids emotions don't affect me. I feel empathy and compassion for them. And if emotions arise, I’m asking why? What unmet needs I’m having? + where they really come from? What I have to see about myself here? What situation, kids or other people teaching me now? Am I in harmony an peace at the moment ?
What my kids feeling?

Self care and consciously seeing myself helped me to know more about my own emotions, attitudes, beliefs, inner provisions. And you know, I realised most of everything is not mine. I been taught and learned in childhood and took it as it’s me.

So how I’m helping myself each day:

I slowed down and doing everything in my own pace. Because I know that when I’m rushing and running more calamities happening, I becoming more clumsy.
1 task at one time.
Daily self-regulation, contemplation, using breathing techniques, hugging myself and gratitude as well helping a lot.

First 2 years of changing my life I constantly repeated to myself: “my children is not a problem for me, it is difficult for them”. And I always tried to see children through their prospective, their experiences and I observed my feelings at the same time too(what I feel and why).

But most of all helped when I accepted and integrated my own emotions and feelings and was dealing with my childhood traumas and experiences.

It was difficult to go alone through these new experiences but Alhamdulillah I had 2 good mentors who were helping me a lot.

So now I’m sharing with you all my knowledge and slowly with Allah’s SWT help guiding you towards better you and relationship with your kids, spouses, parents and all other people.
Nothing happening suddenly, understanding and changes will come slowly. Do everything consciously and integrate these teachings in your life
Just DO IT! 😊❤️
I’m here for you and with you🤗