Salam Alaikum sister and thank you again for asking a question. I believe it will benefit everyone on this group and raise more questions. ❤️

I personally see many women nowadays going through similar feelings and stress( I wasn’t an exception).

I will generalise the answer that each can take their part from all the answer.

What is stress? Stress is body's response to pressure.
We each are different and our bodies have limited capacity of inner energy and strength. And we should learn about these energies and where we wasting or loosing it and how to top up it. Everything matters: good sleep, proper and nutritious food, how we working and resting, is our physical body clean from parasites and fungus and is our spiritual, emotional level not having “worms and parasites” as well.

When mother pressurises herself to be a superwoman and do everything and when other adults putting pressure and expectations ( husband, parents, society ) mothers going to the weel of stress.

That’s why only YOU can STOP THE WEEL of this stress.
Most of the stress is self chosen and naturally you don’t want to do anything.
When life is only big stress we searching comfort and satisfaction in food, haram activities, bad habits. Brains need to find energy and relax and food becoming comfort (especially sweet).

FIRST YOUR PRIORITY IS YOU YOURSELF AND ALLAH SWT.

That’s why to see ourselves we need to SLOW DOWN AND PRIORITISE.

I personally scheduled day time first according to the prayers, then in between I put my 2 h of personal time and then all the rest.
Each our schedule and timing would be individual.

But I would recommend prioritise according to Islamic teachings: first you and Allah SWT, then husband, then kids, your parents, husband’s parents then you can put your job outside.
When you start writing by hours you’ll see that not much you can do during the day, even if you are not working outside.

To manage household chores, family and to work 9 am till 5 pm is possible but even more exhausting.
And even women who managing it having mental and physical health problems.

Women are weak, they are emotional and it should be like that. We are women, naturally we can’t go hunt and bring mammoth, feed kids and maintain everything. Nowadays everyone pushing manage, manage, manage…
But no one see and feel each other anymore.
Usually spouses are not talking about their feelings only about problems but if you start to talk and listen and understand each other it will be much more easier to solve everything.

There are so many options how you can help yourself:

II’l be writing about MINIMALISM. Minimum items, clothes, people, TV, phones, contacts, kid’s toys…Minimum of everything what not serving you. For that again you need to slow down and see your lifestyle.

The other thing is to say NO. Pleasing others, doing instead of others, even instead of kids, sacrificing yourself can be exhausting.

Don’t promise to anyone- anything.
Ask help from others.
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You not only need to sit calmly and in peace, you MUST do that each day. I

And each day, minimum 2 h per day each person should
have time for himself/ herself and do nothing. It’s not mine opinion, it’s well known recommendation from mental health professionals.

Nothing is worser than tired and exhausted mom.

When mother always neglecting herself, not having moral and other support, feeling overwhelmed and exhausted then obviously it’s stressful.

I MUST. I NEED. I’ll DO IT.

NO.

Nothing is urgent. Even mother who having newborn baby shouldn’t rush. Calm, relaxed, mentally and physically healty, not exausted mom will be able to share love, to see how kids feeling and respond consciously to their needs, feelings and emotions .

It’s not easy to change everything , and we don’t need additional stress.
But by just prioritising yourself you’ll see difference.
By changing one thing naturally changing other things too.

Each day practice to see your needs first and how your body is feeling. Sit, close eyes and feel your body from toes till top of the head, breath.

I’ll text more but slowly. Tomorrow about other methods what helping to feel emotions InshaAllah.