I changed a lot during past 5 years. And learned to say NO in many situations. Even to my parents. I understood that saying NO is not rudeness or selfishness. Itself it’s a very healthy thing because I’m not taking unnecessary commitments, promising and then deceiving people.
And yes, many people left me or been removed by Allah SWT, but many other nice people came. Many my closest ones were upset or angry because of my NO, but it was their reactions and feelings. Being honest is not a crime and no one should be feeling guilty about it or apologise.
I’m still learning
and more focusing on myself to develop new good habits and improve communication skills. But choosing with whom to speak, where to spend time or what direction to go. And I notice less waisting energy and time as not allowing others to use and drain me like before.