Salam Alaikum dear Brothers and Sisters, I hope you are all feeling well today.
A warm welcome to all new members of the group 🤍
May Allah SWT fill your homes with mercy, understanding, and sakinah (peace).
Before we continue our topic on desire differences in marriage and what to do when our desires mismatch, an important clarification:
1️⃣ Even though many men complain about “no intimacy,” many women experience the opposite -feeling ignored, emotionally disconnected, or unwanted.
2️⃣ Both genders have complaints, both genders feel pain, and both genders experience desire mismatch.
We are learning this topic from an Islamic, psychological, and holistic perspective, so we can understand each other more deeply, with balance and fairness.
So as you read these messages, please remember:
❗️ You are reading through your own experience and emotions.
Someone else in this group or even in your own marriage, may be living the opposite or different struggle.
❗️ Nothing here is blaming men or women.
We are describing patterns that appear in real marriages.
❗️ Our goal is to understand how Allah SWT created us, to learn, to reflect, and to take steps with clarity, wisdom, and patience - not to accuse or judge.
This topic is emotional for many, so please read with gentleness - toward yourself and toward each other.
Thank you to everyone who messaged privately with questions and kind words.
With your permission, I will answer here in the group so everyone can benefit.
Those who recently joined cannot see previous messages on this topic -message me privately and I will send them to you.